Should Everyone Go To Pride?

I wrote a guest post for the blog Je Ne Sais Quoi the other week (you can read it here), and it sparked some interesting conversations with some of my friends. I wrote a guide on how you can be an ally to the LGBTQ+ community , and some of my advice was that you can attend Pride.

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I Like Boys…and Girls

(This post accidentally got deleted, so I’ve reposted it but it was written in March 2018)

I’ve been wanting to write about this topic for quite a while now, but without ever being sure of the approach I wanted to take. As the title suggests, I’ll be writing about the fact that I am bisexual. It wasn’t an easy journey, nor a romantic one that can be seen in films – where one takes a glance at a beautiful girl and they instantly fall in love and are able to discover their sexuality together, or with one helping the other. It was an emotional journey full of confusion, doubt and shame. I’m not sure whether or not I can say I’ve truly found and understood myself now, but at least I’ve accepted myself – which is more than I could’ve wished for a couple years back. 

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Don’t Buy Me That ‘Feminist’ tshirt You Saw

As someone who is openly feminist, I know many people think of me when they see ‘feminist’ merchandise. Whether it’s tshirts, posters, stickers, or bags, I often get a “Oh this made me think of you!”. And I’m not criticising that, I mean I’m glad they’re thinking of me and I don’t dislike the association, but I just want them to be aware of what kind of merchandise they are looking at. The real issue, for me, starts when people buy things because they seem feminist, when in reality they are not. 

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Coming Out to my Family

After coming out to my friends, I didn’t know how long it would take for me to tell my family. I really wanted to get it off my chest, but I had no idea what kind of reactions to expect from my parents. I didn’t know who to tell first, or how to tell them.
The first family member I ended up telling was my cousin, which seemed normal and natural to me as I consider her one of my closest friends. As anticipated, she was more than okay with it and we then had a nice conversation about it. 

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We Grew up in a Heteronormative Society

We grew up in a heteronormative society, and despite obvious progress, we still live in one. A heteronormative society is a society which promotes heterosexuality as the norm and/or the preferred sexual orientation. I often read comments about how it isn’t the case anymore, considering how much we talk about anything queer-related nowadays and how better informed we are. I mean, yes, we do talk about it way more and it’s slowly becoming more and more accepted, but it’s still not considered the ‘norm’. Here’s a very simple example: we still need to come out. If being gay, or bi, or anything in the LGBTQ+ community was considered normal, then we wouldn’t generally assume that every baby is straight and cisgender until proven otherwise.

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What Not to Say to Bisexuals

As part of Pride Month I wanted to share some thoughts about bisexuality, and more specifically statements and questions that I’ve heard or that have been said to me. You might recognise yourself in some of these sayings, because you’ve thought or asked them. It is not an attack on you, or some hate letter because you might’ve said them; this is simply to educate and hopefully make you understand that sometimes your statements or curiosities can be hurtful/invalidating. 
This is entirely personal and how I feel about them, I am in no way talking for the community as a whole. I just want to spread some light on some things that you could avoid saying:

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